Here are 3 ways individual counseling can help your marriage.
Even happily married couples can hit obstacles along the way. When this happens, couples can go it alone and try to work through their issues, or they can seek guidance from an experienced marriage counselor. While some couples feel their problems are private, many find value in seeking help from an impartial and nonjudgmental third party.
Identifying Behavioral Patterns
Many of us are aware of our partner’s behaviors but unaware of our own. Most challenges faced by spouses are the result of the historical patterns between them. But when you only see one-half of the patterns, the problems in the marriage seem confusing and overwhelming.
A therapist helps individuals recognize their own negative relationship patterns. This empowers each person to be able to take a step back during conflicts as they occur, preventing an escalation.
A trained therapist can also point out the strengths and resources they find in your relationship so you can leverage and learn how to nourish them, allowing counseling to help your marrriage.
Change at the Root Level
Once your therapist helps you identify negative patterns, they can then help you understand why they are happening. A marriage counselor can assist you in changing them. Most behavioral patterns are formed and ingrained when we are very young – before we become self-aware and before we’ve met our significant others.
Understanding why your partner reacts a certain way can create empathy and help communication. Your therapist can give you specific adjustments that can change your relationship for the better.
A therapist will tailor changes based on your unique dynamics as a couple. They will help you practice the adjustments and encourage you to remain vigilant and consistent. The result is a deeper intimacy and a deeper understanding of each other with a renewed commitment to meet each other’s needs and desires.
While you may feel embarrassed discussing marital problems, a marriage counselor can bring you both to a more fulfilling phase of your partnership.
If you or a loved one is interested in exploring treatment, please contact me today. I would be happy to speak with you about how counseling can help your marriage.